Wednesday, September 11, 2013
Orson Welles once said, “If there hadn’t been women we’d still be squatting in a cave eating raw meat, because we made civilization in order to impress our girlfriends.” I doubt we will ever get to the point where we stop grooming and bettering ourselves in order to win the hearts of our women folk. The dating game can be quite daunting to some men because it’s simply not the easiest thing to win a woman’s approval to go on a date with you moreover winning her heart.
If you are serious about attracting women, it’s time to suit up and brush up on your act because a woman who is worth the effort can spot the holes in your cover from a mile away. Women are like some pretty complex human machine that we never seem to be able to figure out so we all could do with some help in that department from time to time. Here are a few tips to help you brush up on your dating game.
1. Be Yourself and Keep it Real
Rule number one in dating, don’t fake it or you may break it. While some of us are real actors and pride ourselves in this regard, we need to remember that once we start portraying ourselves to be who we are not we will have to maintain it or risk coming off as a big fat fake liar. It’s a risky business. Faking it really puts a strain on a relationship because even a player has to be on constant guard not to have his cover blown. This takes away from his ability to really give the woman the attention she deserves and pretty soon the blinds will fall.
Avoid this altogether if you are a shy guy because faking it can cause you to be uptight or come off as simply trying too hard to impress on your first date.
2. Be Confident
It’s quite normal to be a bit nervous on the first date and even subsequent dates, but confidence is as attractive to women as it is to us. Keep the conversation within your comfort zone by initiating topics you enjoy and can handle well. This does not mean you should dominate and hog the conversation. It is vital to maintain a balance. Choosing to date someone with similar interests will go a long way here.
3. Choose a Relaxed, Casual Setting
Where you choose to have your first date is very important. Bear in mind that your date may be nervous too so instead of selecting a location to impress, choose one that you both agree on. One that will allow both of you to relax and enjoy each other’s company is most ideal.
Dating can be awkward, but there’s no need to be the Charlie Brown of dating. A little practice and behind the scene grooming will go a long way.